5 Signs You’re Holding It All Together, but Quietly Falling Apart

A lot of us have been there. You’re ticking the boxes, smiling when you’re meant to, showing up for work, school runs, family dinners. On paper, you’re coping. But deep down, something’s off. If you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I feel so drained when nothing’s technically wrong?”—this is for you.

Here are five signs you might be carrying more than you realise.

1. You’re exhausted, but it’s not just physical
You sleep, but you never feel rested. It’s not just about busy days, it’s the emotional labour of holding everything together while ignoring your own needs.

2. You find yourself snapping over small things
The toothpaste lid, the unanswered text, the noise. When you’re maxed out emotionally, the smallest triggers can tip you over, and then comes the guilt.

3. You’ve stopped enjoying things that used to bring joy
Reading, walks, your favourite coffee, they just don’t land the same. You keep doing them, but they feel more like routine than pleasure.

4. You feel disconnected from people, even those you love
You’re going through the motions, but something feels flat. Like you’re there, but not really in it. You may even pull away to avoid feeling like a burden.

5. You’re thinking, “I shouldn’t be struggling with this”
That voice that says, “Other people have it worse” or “You’re lucky, what’s wrong with you?” That voice is what keeps you silent. But your pain is valid, even if it’s quiet.

If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
There’s nothing weak about reaching your limit. And you don’t have to wait for things to fall apart completely before reaching out.

I work with women who look like they’re coping—but feel like they’re quietly unravelling. If that’s you, I offer a calm, confidential space to unpack what you’ve been carrying.